Still, you might want to pay attention to this story, of the woman who went on a few dates with a man she met on Match, only to end up getting stabbed multiple times by him when she tried to break it off. Alright, let’s say you’ve weathered the pitiful response rate, and you’ve slogged your way through the dredges of humanity. Maybe you’ll send a few messages back and forth, and you’ll realize you’ve met someone truly special.You maintained your optimism, and lo and behold, you finally get matched up with someone who’s attractive intelligent. Or maybe – just maybe – the person you’re corresponding isn’t actually the person whose photos you’ve been daydreaming about.If you don’t want to click the link, here’s a quick summary of the report: “Use some goddamned common sense.” Okay, so you probably figure you’re neither dumb nor desperate enough to fall for scams like these. Woo hoo, score one victory for the online dater, right? Hailing down on their own parade, Match admitted that the background checks may do little good.And hey, mad props to you for being such an exemplary case of human savvy. As a site representative put it, while “these checks may help in certain instances, they remain highly flawed, and it is critical that this effort does not provide a false sense of security to our members.” Thanks, Match. Or was this a subtle “fuck off” to all your dissatisfied daters? Just be wary of the human scum you may come across. The person you meet may not be the person you were corresponding with.Of course, putting something on the internet is kind of like catching herpes: once it’s there, it goes away. Now, given that OKCupid was talking some serious shit about their competitors, you’re probably thinking that article should be taken with a grain of salt. if not for the scads of other evidence that online dating sites do in fact juice up their numbers.To date, Match has been involved in a spate of lawsuits by disgruntled daters, alleging that the vast majority of their member profiles are inactive or outright fake.What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.
And your date will never know the difference (hopefully).
One suit went as far as to accuse Match of employing shills to entice members to renew their subscriptions.
These cases were all dismissed or dropped, but the most recent one in 2011 did produce disheartening results (well, disheartening for online daters – the results were great for Match).
A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.
Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.